Showing posts with label repentance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label repentance. Show all posts

Sunday, 21 August 2016

My Be-Attitudes 3 (Attitude of Mourning) (Pastor Sarah Omakwu) 21-08-2016

★ MY SERMON NOTES
@ Family Worship Centre (FWC)
Wuye, Abuja 
Sunday Service  
21st August, 2016 

Pastor Sarah Omakwu
 
☆ Rules of Good behaviour that you must Inculcate as a Believer at Social Occasions: 
1. When you are invited for any occasion, study the Invitation card properly 
→ Do not bring another person(s)  along if you were the only person invited (except with the prior permission of the organisers) 
→ If you cannot afford the precise dress or colour code, try as much as you can to wear something close to what is required. This adds beauty to the event. 
 
2. Never attend any celebration (birthdays, naming ceremonies, bridal shower, baby shower, house dedication, etc) empty handed.  
→ Always prepare to take an appropriate gift along with you, no matter how small. 
→ Do not just go to a party to eat and leave. If you do that, you are a liability! 
 
3. If you are invited as a dignitary at any event (eg. Chairman), and you accept, you must perform that function honourably by also giving good gifts to the celebrants or organisers. 
→ NOTE: Your transportation expense to the event (via road, air or sea) is not part of your contribution and does not suffice as a gift!  
 
4. Always attend every event on time
→ Lateness is a sign of disrespect  
 
5. Do not take your children with you to a party where you are invited, unless it is a children's party - or the organizers have specifically invited them too 
 
6. Realize that anytime you are 
given an invitation card, you are expected to add value to the event
→ Bear in mind that the organisers specifically thought about you before writing your name. Do not disappoint them. 


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 SERMON: 
* Speaker: Pastor Sarah Omakwu 
* Topic: My Be-Attitudes 3 (Attitude of Mourning)
* Text: Mathew 5:4 →"Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted."  
 
 
 
 
* NOTE: Mourning was an attitude that Jesus had while on earth. 
→ As a believer and follower of Jesus, you should have that same attitude  
 
* Being happy (blessed) while in a state of mourning sounds like a contradiction 
→ Happiness (blessedness) is produced by the experience of God's favour - not by external circumstances. 
 
* This be-attitude (godly mourning) is the other side of being poor in spirit
 
* To mourn means to experience deep grief. 
→ It is an expression of intense sense of loss, helplessness, hopelessness or despair 
→ It is to be contrite and penitent 
 
* To be penitent is to feel and express regret, a sense of guilt and resolve to amend your life, to change. 
 
* There cannot be penitence without a corresponding action 
 
* Contrition involves FEELING sorry; while Penitence involves ACTION (doing something to amend the wrong)
 
* You must realize that you cannot help yourself, and a spiritual bankrupt, therefore you surrender to God by coming back to Him 
 
* Genuine mourning is composed of both contrition and penitence 
→ when you FEEL something (eg, a conviction), you should DO something about it (eg, repentance)
→ when you feel convicted about a particular sin, you should repent and turn away from it 
 
* Repentance is to completely turn away from sin
⇒ It involves a 180 degree turn in the opposite direction from the confessed sin 
→ Those who mourn do not hide, trivialize or justify sin.
★ John 8:11 
 
* When you hide or trivialize your sins, you can never know the comfort that comes from a pure heart; you will never enjoy the ministry of the Angel of Comfort! 
 
* A pure heart is one that has mourned before God and surrenders to Him
- He (God) removes the sin from your heart, washing it with the blood of Jesus thereby restoring it to Himself.  
→ A pure heart is not something you do (through your personal effort); It is something God does Himself 
 
 
* The reason why people always repent and still go back to the same sin is because there was no real repentance in the first place 
 
* There cannot be real rejoicing where there is no real mourning
 
* This generation does not know anything about mourning 
→ Today, people do not mourn and groan over their sins 
→ There is so much busyness and distractions by gadgets and quest for prosperity that we forget or neglect to be contrite and penitent before God 
 
* You must take time to reflect in prayer and weep over your sins, and intercede for others  
 
* You must not brush over your sins and hide under the 'grace of God'. 
⇒ NOTE: Jesus Himself who is the Lord of all grace had occasion to mourn severally while He was on earth. 
 
* Question: When was the last time you closed your door and truly interceded for the salvation of  others?
 
 
* David was called a man after God's own heart because He was acquainted with mourning (See: 1 Samuel 13:14; Acts 13:22) 
 
* As a Christian, you must be passionate for the salvation of the souls of people who are lost  
→ This is what is in the heart of God
 
* Those who really mourn for their own sins find the peace and comfort of God 
★ See: Psalm 51 
 
* The person that hurts another and then apologises half-heartedly will only attract anger and more wrath from the offended party
⇒ Never explain or justify your weakness, shortcoming or sin 
→ Repentance (to God or to any person you have hurt) must be genuine and unconditional 
 
* When you truly repent and mourn, the Holy Spirit then works on your heart, thereby giving you comfort 
 
* There cannot be genuine repentance without 'righting' the wrongs you have committed 
 
☆ Biblical Examples of Mourning:
1. Nehemiah wept and stopped eating when he learnt about the desolation of Jerusalem (Nehemiah 1:1-4) 
 
2. Jeremiah mourned and wept the captivity of the Children of Isreal (Jeremiah 4: 19-31) 
 
3. When the Jews were facing eminent genocide from their arch-enemy Haman 
→ Mordecai and all Jews mourned (Esther 4:1-3)
→ Esther fasted and mourned (Esther 4:15) 
 
4. Hannah mourned over her reproach of barrenness (1 Samuel 1:8-10) 
 
5. Paul suffered in the course of ministry (2 Corinthians 6:3-10) 
 
☆ When you Should Mourn: 
1. When you have personal sins, mistakes and failures
 
2. When you experience any kind of personal loss arising from bereavement, loss of money, a bad investment, etc. 
 
3. When there is sickness or loss of any bodily function 
 
4. When you cannot do what is natural for other people (e.g. natural conception, etc.) 
 
5. When someone around you is afflicted, going through crisis or a challenge (Job 2:11-13)   
★ Romans 12:5 →"Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep." 

6. When you are going through personal tribulations and challenges

* NOTE: Whenever you go back and fall before God in total surrender, you are endeared to Him! 

* The things you do not have and the challenges you experience in life should draw you closer to God and cause you to pour yourself completely to him in dependence. 

7. For the condition of the world 

8. For false religions, false prophets and heresies that exist in the world 

9. For Christians who are persecuted all over the world 

10. For the terrorized world  

11. Christians should mourn over the rise of all manner of perverseness and immorality in the world 
→ Instead of judging and criticising homosexuals, lesbians, murderers, drunkards, fornicators, adulterers, etc, intercede for them! 

★ 1 Corinthians 5:1 →"It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and such sexual immorality as is not even named among the Gentiles—that a man has his father's wife! And you are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he who has done this deed might be taken away from among you." 

12. When a sweet relationship breaks down 

★ 2 Corinthians 7:10 →"For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death." 

* NOTE: Any Sorrow which pushes you back to God for comfort is godly sorrow.
→ You must always run back to God whenever something go wrong. 
→ Do not seek solace or comfort outside God.  

* When you mourn 'properly', God comforts and heals you 

☆ Instances when Jesus mourned:
1. When John the Baptist (His cousin) was murdered by king Herod (Matthew 14:1-13) 

2. When Lazarus died (John 11:35) 

3. When He saw the condition of Jerusalem (Luke 19:41-44)  

4. In the Garden of Gethsemane (Matthew 26:36-39) 

5. When He carried our sins on Calvary (Matthew 27:45-46) 

* NOTE: 
→ You cannot be greater than your master 
→ You must intercede for those who are in darkness and those who do not know Jesus 
→ You need to start praying for the salvation of your relations who are far from God

* Jesus was always seeking the face of God in prayers as a sign of dependence 

* "Those who mourn are happy" (Mathew Henry) 

* You must be mindful of things that are important to God 

* NOTE: God cannot do anything in this world unless we give Him permission in prayer

* Real Christianity is accompanied with moaning, groaning and prayer 

* You need to get to the level that the things that worry God are the same things that worry you 
→ Be connected to God's High Tension Grid!   

☆ Challenge: 
→ when was the Iast time you groaned in prayer over somebody else's problem? 
→ when was the last time you groaned over somebody's lost opportunities?
→ when was the last time you prayed, groaned and wept over your own sins?  




☆ PRAYER: 
Help me father
to mourn for my sins,
Help me to be 
contrite and penitent 
for those who are going through 
I pray for every hurting person 
l pray for the Chibok girls,
than they be restored to their families 
I make you Lord over my life
I pray that Your kingdom come and 
May your will be done 

Sunday, 8 May 2016

Repentance (Aunty Bose Ehindeiro) 08-05-2016

★ MY SERMON NOTES
@ Family Worship Center (FWC)
Wuye, Abuja
Discipleship Training School (DTS)
8th May, 2016

* Speaker: Ms. Bose Ehindeiro
* Topic: Repentance

★ Repentance means:
→ turning away from what you did wrong
→ moving to a better life
→ it is not sorrow because you are caught
→ Turning a new leaf; leaving Your old ways behind
→ being penitent for what someone has done or omitted to do

★ Act 3:19 →"Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord." (NKJV)

★ 2 Corinthians 7:8-10 →"For though I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it; though I did regret it—for I see that that letter caused you sorrow, though only for a while — I now rejoice, not that you were made sorrowful, but that you were made sorrowful to the point of repentance; for you were made sorrowful according to the will of God, so that you might not suffer loss in anything through us. For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world produces death."

★ Proverbs 28:13 →"Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy."

★ Repentance means:
(a) Internal sorrow that results in turning away from sin, disobedience or rebellion and turning back to God 
(b) Feeling remorse, regret or sorry for what we have done amiss or for past sinful conduct in order to do them no more
(c) A complete turning around from your sinful ways springing up from a godly sorrow, to a new life to complete obedience to Jesus Christ

☆ Ingredients that must be present for there to be repentance:
→ remorse
→ turning around
→ complete obedience

☆ What is the relationship between repentance and salvation?
★ 2 Corinthians 7:10 →"Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."
→ godly repentance leads to salvation
→ if you repent, you will be saved

☆ Two Characteristics of Repentance
1. Repentance from Sin [Proverbs 28:13; 1 John 1:9; 1 John 2:1]
→ godly repentance opens the door of prosperity
→ You have to confess and repent
→ Jesus is our advocate [he defends us and intercedes for us]

2. Repentance from Dead Works [Acts 19:18-19; Hebrews 6:1]
→ Repentance involves confession and a clean break away from the sin.
→ A clean break may involve taking practical steps towards recovery and restitution
→ Do not cover your sins and addictions. It will take you to hell
→ whatever your needs are, God can meet all your needs. You do not need to engage in sinful activities to survive
→ Open confession to one another

☆ How does Repentance affect the kind of Friends you keep, where you go to socialize, what you drink, how you live, etc?
→ There is no relationship between light and darkness
→ When you repent from dead works, your priorities, association  and desires

☆ What happens when you repent?
→ You become a new creature
→ There is joy in heaven 

☆ What are the fruits of repentance?
→ godly sorrow
→ complete repentance
→ internal joy and peace

★ Action steps:
* Prayerfully list out specific 'dead works' you need to turn away from.  

★ Memory Verse:
★ James 5:16 →"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective."


Monday, 23 February 2015

God with Us (Pastor Ambrose Nwogu) 23-02-2015

NDlC/DMO Chapel
Central Business District,
Abuja - Nigeria
23rd February, 2015

* Speaker: Pastor Ambrose Nwogu
* Topic: God with Us
* Text: Luke 19:10 → "For the Son of man is come to seek and to save that which was lost."

* Abundant life consists in being saved through Jesus

* Acts 4:12 → "Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved."

* Matthew 9:13 → "But go and learn what this means: 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice.' For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners."

→ Salvation has to do with repentance

* Jesus came to call the sinners unto righteousness

* Salvation has a powerful connection with repentance

* Repentance entails becoming aware and acknowledging one's sin and deciding to turn away from it

* This salvation (that Jesus offers) is for every one

* Jesus' salvation is not by force. There is no compulsion  


* Every one that wants the salvation that Jesus brings must ask, seek and make an attempt

* The city of Jericho
→ There was a curse on the land of Jericho

*Joshua 6:26 → "And Joshua adjured them at that time, saying, Cursed be the man before the LORD, that riseth up and buildeth this city Jericho: he shall lay the foundation thereof in his firstborn, and in his youngest son shall he set up the gates of it."

* 1st Kings 16:34 → "In his days did Hiel the Bethelite build Jericho: he laid the foundation thereof in Abiram his firstborn, and set up the gates thereof in his youngest son Segub, according to the word of the LORD, which he spake by Joshua the son of Nun."

* Jesus entered Jericho because there was still a curse on the land

* It is only in Christ that every curse is broken and destroyed forever

* Colossians 2:13-15 → "And you, being dead in your sins and the uncircumcision of your flesh, hath he quickened together with him, having forgiven you all trespasses; Blotting out the handwriting of ordinances that was against us, which was contrary to us, and took it out of the way, nailing it to his cross; And having spoiled principalities and powers, he made a shew of them openly, triumphing over them in it.  

Wednesday, 18 February 2015

God with us (Pastor Ambrose Nwogu) 18-02-2015

NDIC/DMO Chapel
Central Business District,
Garki, Abuja- Nigeria
18th February, 2015

* Speaker: Pastor Ambrose Nwogu
* Topic: God with us
* Text: Hebrews 7:25 → "Therefore he is able to save completely those who come to God through him, because he always lives to intercede for them."

* No man can enjoy abundant life unless such a man is saved

* The first step to receive abundant life that Jesus gives is to accept His offer of salvation

* No matter how bad your sinfulness is, Jesus is able to save you!  
★ 1 Timothy 1:15 → "Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners--of whom I am the worst."

* Jesus is able to save to the utmost

★ Luke 19:10 → "For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost."
 
How does Jesus do this 'seeking'?
1. By His Word
* He sends his Word to the hearts of men

2. He sends His Messengers
→ Prophets
→ Pastors and Ministers of the Gospel
→ The Holy Spirit

3. He uses the conscience of man
→ This is an in-built regulator
→ It keeps you from displeasing God
→ If your conscience is active and alive, you can be restrained by the Holy Spirit
→ This is why you must not allow your conscience to die (by continually abiding in sin) 

4. He uses angels
→ NOTE: Angels to not preach the gospel, but they minister to the Saints
→ Eg. An Angel was sent to Philip to preach to an Ethiopian Eunuch (Acts 8:26-40)



Sunday, 19 October 2014

Fruitfulness (Rev. Chrysanthus Bala John)

SUNDAY SERVICE
★ MY SERMON NOTES
@ Church of Christ in Nations (COCIN)
Area 1, Garki-Abuja, Nigeria
Boys' Brigade Enrolment Service
19th October, 2014

* Preacher: Rev. Chrysanthus Bala John
* Topic: Fruitfulness
* Theme: Knowing the Will of God
* Sub-Theme: Blessing of Doing God's Will
* Service leaders: Benjamin Philemon (English); Job Dapan (Hausa)

* Text: John 15:16-17 →"Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you. These things I command you, that ye love one another."

* Every fruit produces a particular kind of seed

* The seed referred to here is the 'Seed of righteousness'

* God expects you to go into The world and bear fruit

★ 1st Timothy 1:12 →"And I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who hath enabled me, for that he counted me faithful, putting me into the ministry."

* Every minister is God's appointee to carry the mandate of the Gospel

* 3 reasons for the appointment of faithful Ministers of the Gospel
1. To go forth
2. To bear fruit
3. To preach the Gospel Christ

* Our sole duty in this world is to take the gospel to the dying world

★ Matthew 3:8 → "Produce fruit that is consistent with repentance!"

* People are always looking to see whether your fruits are Consistent with your confession of repentance

* Fruitfulness is the precedent to receiving answers to prayers

★ John 10:27 → "My sheep hear my voice. I know them, and they follow me."

* When we preach the gospel, it is an indication that we have received it.

★ 2nd Kings 7:9 → "But then they told each other, “We’re not doing the right thing. This is a day of good news, but if we keep quiet until morning, we’re sure to be punished! So let’s leave and go tell the king’s household!”

* Do not keep the good news to yourself

* Delay is dangerous: You must approach the Gospel with all sense of urgency

* We have been chosen & appointed by God to bear fruit

* When you come before the Judgement throne what do you have to show?

* Every Christian that does not bear fruit is heading to hell

"But when he saw many of the Pharisees and Sadducees coming for baptism, he said to them, “You brood of vipers, who warned you to flee from the wrath to come? “Therefore bear fruit in keeping with repentance; and do not suppose that you can say to yourselves, ‘We have Abraham for our father’; for I say to you that from these stones God is able to raise up children to Abraham. “The axe is already laid at the root of the trees; therefore every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire."  

Sunday, 2 July 2000

The Kind of Revival we Need (Dr. Ferdinand Nweke) 02-07-2000

★ MY SERMON NOTES
@ Chapel of Faith,
University of Jos, Plateau State
Nigeria
Revival Weekend
2nd July, 2000

SERMON
* Speaker: Dr. Ferdinand Nweke
* Topic: The Kind of Revival we Need

* When gold is replaced by rags, then it is time for revival

* It is time for revival:
→ when you are not responding to spiritual stimulus;
→ when secret sins abound in your life;
→ when sin is becoming tolerable in your soul;
→ when spiritual things no longer appeal to you;
→ when fasting becomes a problem;
→ when the plight of sinners means nothing to you;
→ when you are a bruised tree;
→ when you are like a dry bone;
→ when the joy of your heart is not your master;
→ when you want to copy this generation

* In the time for revival, there is joy

* Joy is the oil that runs the Christian's 'engine'

* NOTE: A joyful Christian is a good advertisement

* Revival brings fruits that last

* Revival comes with persecutions

* NOTE: An army of lions led by a goat will be defeated by an army of goats led by a lion

* Revival brings boldness

* when there is revival, there are judgements
→ NOTE: Judgement starts in the house of God

★ 1 Peter 4:17 →"For the time has come for judgment to begin with the household of God. And if it begins with us, what will be the outcome for those who refuse to obey the gospel of God?"

* Those who come to the house of God carelessly will attract God's Judgement because of God's move.

* In revival, there are Sacrifices to be made

* We need the revival that God brings in the midst of His people


★ Habakkuk 3:1-3 →"A prayer of Habakkuk the prophet. On shigionoth.a Lord, I have heard of your fame; I stand in awe of your deeds, Lord. Repeat them in our day, in our time make them known; in wrath remember mercy. God came from Teman, the Holy One from Mount Paran.b His glory covered the heavens and his praise filled the earth."


* The world is perishing for the want of God's knowledge; The Church is perishing for the want of God's presence

* When God comes, there is light, power and healing

* We need a revival of the power of God's Word

* The revival we are looking for is like a sound from heaven (not environmentally generated sounds)

* God's revival swallows the works of men

* God can fight for himself and manifest his power

* We need a revival that will turn the hand of the enemy

★ Esther 9:1 →"On the thirteenth day of the twelfth month, which is the month Adar, when the king’s order and edict was about to be carried out, on the day when the enemies of the Jewish people expected to prevail over them, things were turned around so that the Jewish people themselves prevailed over those who hated them."

* Revival will give you the upper hand against those who hate you (cults and all forms of the powers of darkness)

* We need a revival of a sound preaching in our Churches, not heresy

* Sound doctrine is not enjoyed. It is endured

* We need a revival that will produce genuine repentance in the Church

* We need the revival of the landmarks of righteousness, of Christianity

* We need a revival of divine hunger in the hearts of men

* we need a revival of the revelation of Jehovah
→ we need to see God as God
→ Today, men set God to be used by them for their purposes

* The Church needs a revelation of the God we are serving

* The bigger God gets in our eyes, the smaller mountains would become

* We need the revival of the fear of God

★ Job 31:4 →"Doth not he see my ways, and count all my steps?"
⇒ God counts all your steps!

* Question: Do you fear God?

* Those who commit sin do so because they don't see it as a great wickedness against God

* If Satan catches your coat, don't let him catch your covenant

★ Revelation 15:4 →"Who shall not fear thee, O Lord, and glorify thy name? for thou only art holy: for all nations shall come and worship before thee; for thy judgments are made manifest."

★ Proverb 16:12 →"It is an abomination to kings to commit wickedness: for the throne is established by righteousness."

* We need the revival of consuming zeal in the heart of believers

* We need a revival for the passion of the soul of men (evangelism)

* We need the revival of the love of God that would be characterized by sacrifice:
→ In terms of revival, brethren will sell anything for the sake of the Gospel

* We need the revival of the mighty miracle of God's power
→ That is what God will use to silence the mouth of the devil

* We need the revival of the 'stranger mentality' while here on earth
→ A revival of eternity in the hearts of men
→ It is only what we do for eternity sake that will last
→ Do the things that have an eternal value
→ God wants His people to line in time for the eternal things

* NOTE: Until the Holy Spirit is poured upon you, you have no life

★ Ezekiel 47:1-12 [The River of God that gives Life]

* When revival comes, it will flow into every part of your life

Monday, 1 February 1999

The Cleansed Life (How to be Clean) (Mr. Joseph Titus) 01-02-1999

★ MY SERMON NOTES
@ Church of Christ in Nigeria (COCIN )
Church of Christ in Nations
Gigiring, Hwolshe, Jos,
Plateau State, Nigeria
1st February, 1999

BIBLE STUDIES
* Topic: The Cleansed Life (How to be Clean)
* Text: Mr. Joseph Titus

1. What is the condition for cleansing and forgiveness?
★ 1st John 1:9 → "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

* Confessing our sins is one of the conditions by which God will forgive us

2. What 2 things did the Psalmist do about his sin in Psalm 32:5?
→ He acknowledged and confessed his sin

3. According to Proverbs 28:13 what is the result of not admitting sin?
→ The result is lack of prosperity
→ The result of admitting sin is finding mercy from God

4. What is confession of Sin and how is it done?
→ This is a deliberate attempt by the sinner to make right his relationship with God
→ Confession depends on the circumstance
→ Before confession, one must admit

5. What kind of prosperity does Proverbs 28:13 talk about?
→ Spiritually (your relationship with God is cut off due to unconfessed sin)
→ Peace with God is affected
→ Physically - The joy of the Lord will depart; expectations will be cut off

★ Matthew 6:33 → "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."

* Once you seek spiritual property, physical prosperity will come with peace

Sunday, 31 August 1997

The Spirit of God and Character 31-08-1997

★ MY SERMON NOTES
@ Church of Christ in Nigeria (COCIN)
Area 1, Garki -Abuja, Nigeria
31st August, 1997

SERMON
* Speaker: [No Data]
* Topic: The Spirit of God and Character
* Text: Isaiah 54:6-8

* Charisma opens the door; Character keeps it open

★ 1st Corinthians 16:9 →"For a great door and effectual is opened unto me, and there are many adversaries."

* Sin is an adversary

* Sin kills dreams and visions

★ 1st Corinthians 15:56 →"The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law."

* The anti-venom of sir is repentance

★ 1st Corinthians 15:33 → "Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners."

★ 1st Corinthians 15:36 → "Thou fool, that which thou sowest is not quickened, except it die:"

* watch what you see, hear and talk

* Ways of wickedness defile the mind of the Christian, his body and soul

* Unless you die to your will, the will of God cannot be done in your life