Responsibilities of Spouses (Husband) 05-05-2016

★ MY SERMON NOTES

Christian Couples Fellowship (CCF)

Lugbe Group, Abuja Zone

5th May, 2016

* Topic: Responsibilities of the Husband

* Leader: Barr. Panshak Haggai

 

1. The Husband as Father:

(a) Training (Proverbs 22:6; Deuteronomy 6:1-6)

- Training is a process of inculcating moral, spiritual, physical and economic (etc) values in children

- The difference between teaching and training is that teaching involves passing of information (whether learning occurs or not) while training is a sort of continuous discipleship whereby the character of a child is transformed

 

* For training to be effective: 

- It must be practical (children learn more from what they observe in their parent's lives)

- It must be consistent

- It must be done with a specific goal in mind

(b) Discipline (Proverbs 13:24; Ephesians 6:4)

* Discipline is a process of correcting a child when a wrong occurs

 

* Principles to note in Child Discipline:

- do not discipline a child to the point that he/she becomes provoked or discouraged

- ensure that you explain why you are disciplining the child

- discipline must be done in love

- always consider the age and temperament of a child in choosing an appropriate form of discipline

- a parent must not always over-react when children does wrong

- both parents must be one while disciplining their children. They must always be on the same side!

 

(c) Encourage & Exhort (Colossians 3:21)

- Children need to be constantly encouraged

- Parents must be wary of the words they use against their children especially when they fail in school or are not performing as good as their peers

- Your words should always be gracious towards your children

- When a parent is harsh, a child may be pushed to rebellion

2. The Husband as Head and Provider

(a) Hardwork (1 Timothy 5:8)

- It is the sole responsibility of the Husband to provide for the home

- A man must not be lazy

- When the husband's income or job is affected, the wife should support him if she is able

- A woman who becomes the breadwinner of the family  must not look down on her husband and she must not cause the children to disrespect him

(b) Pastor of the House (Deuteronomy 6:1-6; Job 1:1-5; Joshua 24:14-15)

- The husband is the Priest of his own home and he is expected to take the lead in spiritual matters  

- The spiritual wellbeing of the family is the husband's primary responsibility.

- He must always take the lead in family worship

- He must not abandon that duty to his wife, though she may support him  

- His goal should be to ensure that everyone in his house makes heaven

Chaplain's, Patrons, Captains, FCT Executive, Battalion and Group Executives Workshop (Lecture 3) 28-02-2015

Boys Brigade (BB) Nigeria  

Chaplain's, Patrons, Captains, FCT Executive, Battalion and Group Executives Workshop

@ All Saints Anglican Church,

Zone 5, Abuja

28th February, 2015

LECTURE 3

* Topic: The Roles of the Chaplains and Patrons in the Boys Brigade (BB)

* Speaker: Mr. Nansel Bagudu

* The BB is one of the oldest uniformed Christian organizations in the world  

* The BB gives boys the avenue to Serve Christ

* The BB gives us the opportunity to 'hold' the young boys in Church and in the Christian faith

* Luke 2:52 - "And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man."

 

* The BB approach covers the following:

→ Physical (Games, drilling, Out-door activities, Camps etc.)

→ Spiritual (Bible teaching, Singing, etc.)

→ Intellectual wisdom (acquire practical skills through training)

→ Social (meet and interact with fiends and other people)

→ Adventure (camp - teaching self Confidence & independence)

* What is expected of Patrons

→ Be a good Christian example everywhere you go

→ Be an adult role model by acting your age

→ Learn discipline and parenting skills (so That you can provide guidance)

→ Be known to the Church's Pastoral team

→ Agree to follow the BB code of Conduct

→ Regular Church attendance

→ Always liaise with the Captain

→ Be willing to sacrifice your time always

→ Represent the BB well at all times

→ Explore all avenues to promote the objects of the BB

→ Liaise with the parents if the Church

→ Thank parents for Sending their Children

→ offer parental advice

→ Support and help the BB officers in the Church .

→ Give publicity to the activities of the BB (especially the Chaplains)

→ Correct, advice and discipline in love

* Patron's Duty

→ Responsibility to the Boys (understand their character)

→ Responsibly to yourself (watch your life and be committed to Christ)

* Give priority to the activities of the BB in developing the leaders of tomorrow

 

Chaplain's, Patrons, Captains, FCT Executive, Battalion and Group Executives Workshop (Exhortation) 28-02-2015

BOYS' BRIGADE

Chaplains, Patrons, Captains, FCT Executives, Battalion, and Group Executives Council Workshop.

@ All Saints Anglican Church,

Zone 5, Abuja - Nigeria  

28th February, 2015

EXHORTATION

* Topic: Faithful leader

* Speaker: Mr. Emmanuel Sabo

* Text: 1 Peter 5:1-4

* One of the greatest challenges in the Church is that of leadership

* Where there are good and committed leaders, the organization flourishes

* Christian leaders are supposed to be like Christ

* One of the key issues in Christian leadership is faithfulness

* There is no faithfulness in:

- Service

- Commitment

- Disciplining the followers

- Making necessary sacrifices

* As Christian leaders, God will one day hold us accountable for our stewardship

* "Willingly" → There is no compulsion in serving God in leadership

→ those who were compelled to serve God in any leadership capacity are usually not committed

→ Don't do it with compulsion

→ Don't do it expecting to get something out of it (think of what you will give to make the Boys' Brigade better)

* Where the leader does not grow, the followers are affected - they will not grow

* Christ expects exemplary leadership

→ lead the way so that others will follow

→ Children learn more by observation

* Do not lord it over your followers

PRAYER

"Father, help me to be a faithful leader;

Help me to be committed in doing what you Want me to do;

Increase my zeal and passion"

5 Keys to a Happy New Year (Rev. Tongsmang T. Dasbak) 28-12-2014

SUNDAY SERVICE
★ MY SERMON NOTES
@ Jesus Revelation Assembly (JRA)
Tudun-Wada Ring Road,
Jos, Plateau State
28th December, 2014

* Speaker: Rev. Tongsmang T. Dasbak

* Topic: 5 Keys to a Happy New Year

* Text: Philippians 3:12-16

→ INTRODUCTION

- In Philippians Chapter 3, Paul used the power of imagery and illustration to portray himself as three (3) different persons:

(a) In Philippians 3:1-11, Paul portrays himself as an Accountant.

- Key words: "I have new values"

- If you do not have any godly values, you have nothing to live for

(b) In Philippians 3:12-16, Paul portrays himself as an Athlete

- Key words: "I press towards the goal"

- In other words, Paul is saying "I have a new vigour"

- Without the discipline and the vigour of an athlete, you cannot pursue your values in order to attain your goals

(c) In Philippians 3:17-21, Paul portrays Himself as an Alien

→ Key words: "I look"

- This world has everything that you need to become what God wants you to become, but you have to look for them diligently

- If you do not look, you will not discover

☆The 5 Keys to a Happy New Year

★ Key #1: Dissatisfaction

→ Philippians 3:12-13

"It’s not that I have already reached this goal or have already become perfect. But I keep pursuing it, hoping somehow to embrace it just as I have been embraced by the Messiah Jesus. Brothers, I do not consider myself to have embraced it yet. But this one thing I do: Forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead."

- Paul was satisfied with Jesus as his Lord, but he was dissatisfied with his life & achievements

- You must be careful of entertaining a false estimate of your own spiritual condition

- When you become satisfied with your present condition, you will not grow

- If you want more out of life, You must be dissatisfied with your present condition

- Whatever you are doing, try to be the best that you can possibly be

- Stop comparing Yourself with others

- Do whatever you can to improve your lot in life

- Regardless of what you have achieved so far, there is always room for further improvement and growth

★Key #2: Devotion

→ Philippians 3:14

"I keep pursuing the goal to win the prize of God’s heavenly call in the Messiah Jesus."

- You need to have a definite Focus for your life

- Your focus must be defined

- You must be determined to avoid anything that may distract you from your goal(s) is life

- Set time aside everyday to prayerfully evaluate your life's purpose

- If you aim at nothing, you will achieve nothing

- You need to persist and focus on your goals

★ Key #3: Direction

→ Philippians 3: 13b

"But this one thing I do: Forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead."

- In order to forge ahead in life, there are some past experiences that you must forget

- Do not allow yourself to be controlled by your past experiences of failure, discouragements, betrayals, weaknesses and rejection

- Do not be weighed down or discouraged by the many times you have failed at achieving your goals

- Have a genuine direction for your life

- "Do not cry over spilled milk" - if you fail at succeeding at something, ensure that you recover as fast as you can and try again

- There is a greater future ahead of you than your past (unpleasant) experiences

★ Key #4: Determination

→ Philippians 3:14:

"I keep pursuing the goal to win the prize of God’s heavenly call in the Messiah Jesus."

- The two (2) extremes you must avoid in life while pursuing your goals include the misconceptions that:

(a) "God must do all"

(b) "I must do all"

- You must not achieve all that you have set out to achieve all at once

- Aim at 'winning' small territories at a time, gradually

- Use the resources at your disposal to do the best you can possibly do

- You don't have to be a 'great person' to make it in life.

- You must realise that greatness is in categories and levels. Do not despise the days of little (small) beginnings

- Don't be jealous of anybody, but work hard on your goals

- Be satisfied with what God is about to do in your life

★ Key #5: Discipline

→ Philippians 3:14-15

"I keep pursuing the goal to win the prize of God’s heavenly call in the Messiah Jesus. Therefore, those of us who are mature should think this way. And if you think differently about anything, God will show you how to think."

- Without discipline, an athlete can be disqualified from a sporting event

- You can learn from others, but don't argue with them

- If you want to be great, you must make friends with great people and seek great ideas

- Work gradually towards getting to where you want to be and God will Surely bless you

- You must be consistently diligent and disciplined at maintaining focus on your life's goals

- Without the discipline of diligence, it would be impossible to achieve anything meaningful in your life

- Discipline will enable you to overcome any weakness that may potentially hinder you from reaching your goals in the coming year(s)

SUMMARY

☆The 5 Keys to a Happy New Year

★Key #1: Dissatisfaction

★Key #2: Devotion

★Key #3: Direction

★Key #4: Determination

★Key #5: Discipline