Relationships (Mrs Patricia Chollom) 26-04-2015

★ MY SERMON NOTES

@ Jesus Revelation Assembly (JRA)

Tudun Wada Ring-Road,

Jos - Plateau State

26th April, 2015

JRA WOMENS' CONVENTION 2015

Theme: Excelling Through Every Season of a Woman's Life 

☆ SUMMARY OF TEACHING

FOR SATURDAY 25th April, 2015

* Speaker: Mrs Patricia Chollom (Lecturer, University of Jos)

* Topic: Relationships

Mrs Patricia Chollom

* God wants you to excel in your relationships



* God has set a standard for us (for relationships) in Jesus Christ

* If you do not have a vertical relationship (with God) you cannot have a horizontal relationship (with people around you)

* If your relationship with God is not complete, you will always have frictions in relating with people around you

* Do not be like the Galatians. They accepted Christ by faith, but they want to work out their salvation by self-effort (Galatians 3:3)

☆ Ingredients for Achieving Successful Relationships:

1. Faith

★ Rom 1:17 → "For in the gospel God’s righteousness is being revealed from faith to faith, as it is written, “The righteous will live by faith.”



* Successful relationships Cannot be established and maintained by self effort. It is by faith

* Self effort has limitations, and it will ultimately fail

* By knowing that we are partakers of His divine nature (2 Peter 1:4)

2. Love

★ Ephesians 1:4 → "just as he chose us in the Messiah before the creation of the universe to be holy and blameless in his presence. In love."

→ The love being referred to here is Agape love (pure, unconditional love)

* God expects us to love unconditionally and to also love the unlovable

→ We love because we have received unconditional love (1 John 4:19)

* For a relationship to be sound, there must not be any iota of suspicion

* Your love should not be like the ones politicians display in Nigeria

→They join a political party and pledge their love and allegiance to that party, but when they Cannot realize their personal (selfish) ambitions, they decamp to another party

* God's love is constant and does not change

★ Galatians 5:6 →"for in union with the Messiah Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision matters. What matters is faith expressed through love."

→ Faith works (and its expressed) by love

* If the basis of your relationship not love, it will ultimately fail

* Do not love because you are expecting something

→ The moment you don't get what you are expecting, the love will die out naturally

* Always ask God for a dose of His love

* You cannot give what you don't have

→ If God does not fill your heart with love, you become incapable of showing genuine love to anyone

* 1 Corinthians 13 → Describes God's kind of love

* The greatest weapon on earth is love

→ Love is more effective than any known man-made weapon of destruction

* Trust God in faith and allow Him to fill Your heart with His love

* Pursue love as your highest goal (1 Corinthians 14:1)

* Try by faith, not by effort

* Husbands have a responsibility to love their wives

→ Follow Jesus' standard of love (Ephesians 5:25)

* Women: Love unconditionally, whether you are appreciated or not

☆ Counsel to Singles:

(a) Do not fall in and out of relationships (looking for love);

(b) Keep yourself pure;

(c) Remain lovable

☆ NOTE:

→ God made us for relationships

→ God wants to relate with us, and for us to relate with others

→ If you do not want to love, you must relocate to another planet!

A Christian Home (Pastor 'Lola Owotumi) 30-09-2014

NDIC/DMO Chapel,
Central Business District,
Garki-Abuja, Nigeria
30th September, 2014

* Speaker: Pastor 'Lola Owotumi
* Topic: A Christian Home

★ Romans 11:13-14 → "For I speak to you Gentiles, inasmuch as I am the apostle of the Gentiles, I magnify mine office: If by any means I may provoke to emulation them which are my flesh, and might save some of them."

* In a family, there are different "offices"

* Every one in the family must recognize their roles & magnify their offices

* "Every Joint must Supply" → No member of the family should be lacking in doing what he/she is required to do

★ As a Christian, you must not:
(a) Desecrate Your office
(b) Relegate Your office
(c) Diminish Your office

* Verse 14 : Provoke your family members to promote good things
- Note that children always watch What you do and try to replicate same in their own lives

* Concentrate on your own office. Do not be distracted by anything

* Do not take over another person's office

* Ephesians 5:21 →"Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God."

WIFE
★ Ephesians 5:22-24

* A wise woman builds her own house

★ Proverbs14:1 - "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands"

* Submission is required of wives

* Such submission is done as unto the Lord, not man (the Husband)

★ 1st Peter 3:1-6

* If wives obey God, He will make their husbands to do their bidding

★ Isaiah 51:1-2 →" Hearken to me, ye that follow after righteousness, ye that seek the LORD: look unto the rock whence ye are hewn, and to the hole of the pit whence ye are digged. Look unto Abraham your father, and unto Sarah that bare you: for I called him alone, and blessed him, and increased him."

* Christian women must not rely on their own understanding or wisdom to make their marriages/homes work

HUSBAND
* He is expected to be the "saviour" of the wife

* The husband should always provide for the family

What is a Holy Marriage? (Rev. Silas Yako) 29-04-2000

★ MY SERMON NOTES

@ Church of Christ in Nigeria (COCIN)

(Now Church of Christ in Nations)

Hwolshe, Gigiring - Jos

29th April, 2000

☆☆Wedding Solemnization between:

Mr. Patrick Mancha & Theresa Mancha

SERMON

* Speaker: Rev. Silas Yako

* Topic: What is a Holy Marriage?

* Text: Ephesians 5:15-33

* A holy marriage is one entered with wisdom

* Wisdom is the adhesive element that preserves the marriage union

* A holy marriage is one that the husband and wife are filled with the spirit of God

* If we allow God's Spirit to fill us, there will be peace in the home

* The one who gets drunk is under the dictates and influence of alchohol

* Taking care of the family is very important; He who does not live up to this responsibility is worse than an infidel & has denied the faith

(1 Timothy 5:8)

* Problems arise in the home when couples do not obey God's Word and they allow themselves to be controlled by other strange spirits/influences (apart from God's Spirit)

* Grumbling, complaining and strife are signs of a 'Spirit of God- less' life

* Submit yourselves to one another; share ideas; help each other; humble yourselves; and tolerate each other

* Wives, obey your husbands - The husband is the head of the house

→ Husbands are God's servants (Priests)

→ The Bible emphasises this obedience

* Some women are wiser, richer and stronger than their husbands, but it does not hinder obedience & reverence

* Husbands must love their wives as Christ loves the Church . . . He who loves his wife loves himself . . . for this (reason) they left their parents to stick to each other

* Love can be demonstrated and also verbalized - this strengthens the bond of unity (among the couple)

* The way a wife comports herself reflects the husband's love for her

* A man who beats his wife is likened to a mad man

→ She is his body (only a mad man beats himself)

→ He is not fit to be called a 'man'

* A man must separate from his father and mother and stick to his wife

* There are many people who dislike a true union of love than those who like and support it

* Be careful as regards the kind of advice or counsel you receive about marriage

* Many men love their cars more than their wives and family

* Living holy lives is supreme

* You cannot deal with the issues of marriage with your bare hands - let bygone be bygone