How to get over a broken Relationship (Pastor Ambrose Nwogu) 03-05-2016

★ MY SERMON NOTES

@ NDIC/DMO Fellowship

Central Business District,

Garki - Abuja

3rd May, 2016

Intern's Fellowship

 

Pastor Ambrose Nwogu

* Speaker: Pastor Ambrose Nwogu

* Topic: Questions & Answer (How to get over a broken Relationship)

★ Question: How to get over a broken Relationship

★ Text: Proverbs 3:13 →"How joyful is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding."

★ Proverbs 4:13 →"Hold on to instruction, do not let it go! Guard wisdom, because she is your life!"

☆ Answer:

→ The best way to get over a broken relationship is to find out what caused the breakage in the first place

* NOTE: There is no need for a young person just starting out in life to put himself/herself in a situation where heartbreak is inevitable. 

- But if it ever happens, it must be managed with wisdom 

☆ Practical Tips for Overcoming Heartbreak:

1. Cut off further communication

→ You'll never heal if you keep in touch with a person you have broken up with

2. Stop seeing or visiting the person

3. Forgive the person who hurt you

→ This is not a suggestion. It is God's command

→ If you carry the hurt, you wll be miserable

4. Release them from your mind

→ realize that you still have a life to live after that relationship

5. You may wish to give out anything that reminds you of the person

6. Stop talking about them in every conversation

7. Be yourself

→ Don't be nasty to the person who comes when you are ready for a relationship

→ Don't suspect that you'll be hurt again

→ Let the wounds of the previous relationship heal

* Getting over a broken relationship is a decision that you must make yourself

☆ NOTE: it is not everybody that will get married

Home Management (Rev. David Kwamkur) 28-09-2014

SUNDAY SERVICE
★ MY SERMON NOTES
@ Church of Christ in Nations (COCIN)
Area 1, Garki-Abuja, Nigeria
28th September, 2014

* Speaker: Rev. David Kwamkur
* Topic: Home Management
* COCIN Community Development Project (CCDP)/Kyautatawa Zaman Iyalin Kristi (KZIK) Week
* Theme: Knowing the Will of God
* Sub theme: Excelling in the Grace of Giving
* Service Leader: Mr. Boniface Katlong

SERMON
* Without a Home, you cannot have Home Management

* Anywhere you are living with your family is your home

* A home is any institution or place of refuge, love, shelter, care, rest, protection, security, comfort, & nourishment

* A Christian home is a place where everyone relates with each other in a Christ-like manner

* You must know Christ first before you know how to relate in a Christ-like manner

* In order to relate in a Christ-like manner, there must be Love

* A Christ-like relationship is self-less

* The home is very essential to the existence of the Church

★ HOME ESTABLISHMENT
* Marriage is essential in establishing a viable home

* Usually, marriage begins with courtship

* Courtship is a key foundation of a marriage. It is a crucial period

★ COUNSELLING
* This involves getting guidance on any issue from a more experienced person

* Marriage is not just an idea, it is a living thing and you need Knowledge & godly counsel to keep it alive

★ WEDDING AND WEDDING CEREMONY
* Make up your mind from the start that you will keep your vows

* As a Christian, the wedding ceremony must be done in a godly way, not as one who is god-less

★ BALANCE
* For you to be godly Man/Woman, you must have a measure of balance in your life

* You must balance your social life, spiritual life with your marriage

* Balance career with marriage

* Balance inner beauty with physical beauty

* Take your marriage as seriously as you would take your career

★ THE INFLUENCE OF CULTURAL VALUES ON MARRIAGE
* Some cultural beliefs are contrary to God's standards

* Under God's standard, men and women are equal and they are required to submit to each other out of fear for God
→ (Ephesians 5:21)

★ PRAYER
* You must be prayerful as a Christian

* Instead of talking about your problems, pray about it
→ Luke 18:1 "Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up."

* Every shortcoming in your spouse, or family is a prayer request

* Every Christian family must have a vibrant prayer altar where worship and prayer become ingrained as part of the family tradition

* Children Must learn how to pray and trust God from the Home

★ BROKEN HOMES
⇒ Some causes of broken marriages
1. Wrong choices
2. Parental, friends, in-laws (external) influence
3. lack of genuine love among couples
4. Communication breakdown
5. Sexual unfaithfulness
6. Stinginess - couples starve their partners

★ COMPLEX ISSUES IN HOME MANAGEMENT
* Some of the Complex issues that confront Christian families include:
→ Impotency
→ Infertility
→ Divorce
→ Management of aged relatives
→ Betrayal among family members

* These must be handled with wisdom, if not, they have the potential of causing disaffection among couples and breaking up the marriage

* There is nothing that God cannot do
→ Luke 1:37 "For with God nothing shall be impossible."

★ THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF CHIILDREN TOWARDS PARENTS
* Children must obey their parents

* Children must take care of their parents, especially where they are aged, sick or poor

* Children must trust God for wisdom in handling unrealistic expectations from parents

★ HANDLING CONFLICTS AMONG FAMILY MEMBERS
* Acts 15:36-41

* Conflicts must be managed & resolved so that they do not affect family harmony

* Conflicts are usually a test

* We are expected to be peace makers as children of God

* A healthy & godly family is a product of hardwork and positive decision